(USA/URGENT UPDATE) God Welcomes Dr. J*ohnDoty in the Kingdom of Heaven
<UPDATE-12/18/2020>
*Please see obituary announcement: https://www.ubf.org/articledetail/16935
<12/12/2020>
God welcomes Dr. J*ohnDoty in the kingdom of Heaven
It is with our broken hearts to share with you that my husband, and our children's father Dr. J*ohn Doty, fell asleep in the arms of our father this evening at 6:48pm. He was surrounded by all our boys and our new daughter-in-law and myself.
He once told me he was afraid to die. I told him, "Remember when our children were young and how they would fall asleep wherever? What did you do? " He said, "I picked them up and put them in bed." I said, "Yeah, you are just going to fall asleep and your daddy will take you to his home." He said, "Oh... That's comforting."
Our hearts are shattered because we lost the best daddy in the whole wide world. To many people, he was "Dr. John". He had a PhD in Electrical engineering, but you would have never guessed he held such a high education degree because he was that humble. You never see him or hear him speaking ill about anyone ever. The words are not enough to describe what a wonderful husband, father, and a friend he was to us and so many.
I feel the world did not deserve him because he was too kind, gracious, and forgiving, and it was our utmost privilege to have him as our daddy, husband, and the best friend.
We just want to thank you for all your support and prayers.
Funeral arrangements will be announced shortly.
G*raceDoty
"가슴아픈 소식을 여러분께 전합니다. 저의 남편, 그리고 우리 아이들의 아버지인 쟌도티 목자님이 세 아들들과 며느리와 제가 함께 한 가운데 오늘 저녁 6:48분(한국시간 오늘 오전 8시 반) 하나님 아버지 품에 안겨 잠들었습니다.
한번은 그가 죽음이 두렵다고 제게 말했습니다. 저는 그에게 이렇게 말했습니다. “우리 아이들이 어렸을 때, 그들이 어느 품에서 잠들곤 했는지 기억하세요? 쟌 목자님이 그 때 무엇을 했는지 기억하세요?” 그는 말했습니다. “내가 아이들을 품에 안아서 침대에 눕혔지요.” “맞아요, 당신은 잠이 드는 것 뿐이예요. 그리고 당신의 아버지되신 하나님이 당신을 품에 안고 본향으로 인도할 거예요” 그러자 그가 말했습니다. “아...그러니 안심이 되네요”
세상에서 가장 좋은 아버지였던 그를 잃은 우리의 마음은 산산히 부서졌습니다. 많은 사람에게 그는 “Dr. 쟌”이었습니다. 그는 전기공학 박사였습니다. 하지만 그가 너무나 겸손하였기 때문에, 여러분은 그가 박사학위를 받은 사람이라고 결코 생각하지 못하셨을 것입니다. 그는 결코 그 어느 누구에 대해서 안 좋게 말한 적이 없었습니다. 그가 우리에게 그리고 수많은 사람들에게 얼마나 훌륭한 남편이요 아버지요 친구였는지 말로 다 표현할 수 없습니다.
제게 이 세상은 너무나 친절하고, 자비롭고, 용서의 은혜가 넘치는 그를 간직해 둘 자격이 없다고 여겨집니다. 아이들의 아버지요 저의 남편이요 가장 좋은 친구로 그와 함께 할 수 있었던 것은 우리에게 가장 큰 특권이었습니다. 여러분 모두의 기도와 지원에 진심으로 감사드립니다. 장례일정은 곧 알려드리겠습니다.
주님 안에서 그레이스도티 올림
<UPDATE-12/8/2020>
They will start a dialysis tonight for his kidneys as his potassium level is way off. This is a long-lasting dialysis.
Dr. Malyala is a believer! He said everything is from God and of God. He said, "it has to be!" but he said, for John, God has to give him a break. God has to give us a break. I gave John the words from Ezekiel 37:1-10 and he became stable and fell asleep. God has to help us out a bit for John to get better and we have a long way to go. We are looking at more than a couple of days of this hardship to see any improvement. Please sit tight with me and John.
OH, LORD!!!! WE CRY OUT TO YOU! GIVE US A BREAK. HELP US OUT! OUR MEDICAL TEAM IS DOING EVERYTHING THEY CAN! DR. MALYALA CAME MORE THAN ONCE TO SEE JOHN TODAY AND HE EVEN CAME THIS EVENING FOR AN ECHO. ACCEPT THIS MAN'S DEDICATION AND COMMITMENT! PLEASE ANSWER US WHEN WE CALL! PLEASE HAVE MERCY ON US! I BEG YOU!
So pray with me that God may answer the doctor's prayer for a break, not because he wants an easy way out, but he is working so hard. May God answer all you saints' prayers as well.
M. G*raceDoty
그레이스도티 선교사님 소식입니다
쟌도티 목자님이 심장이식을 받았을때 처음에 심장이 잘 작동하지 않아 신장,간과 장기들이 손상을 입었습니다.소변이 잘 안나오고 간의 효소 수치가 올라갔습니다.젖산수치는 3.5로 떨어져서 감사합니다. 아직 음식물을 튜브로 투여하지 못하고 있습니다.
칼륨 수치가 떨어지기 때문에 오늘 밤 신장 투석을 시작할 것입니다. 이것은 오래 지속되는 투석입니다. 제가 에스겔서37장 말씀을 전해 줄 때 쟌목자님이 안정을 얻고 잠들었습니다. 쟌목자님의 담당의사가 기독교 신자인데 모든 것이 하나님으로부터 온 것이며, 하나님의 것이라고 말했습니다. 그는 쟌목자님을 위해서 하나님께서 쉼을 주셔야 했던 것이라고 말했습니다. 상태가 진전되고 나아지는지 며칠 더 지켜볼 것입니다. 저와 쟌 목자 곁에 여러분들이 꼭 같이 계셔주시기 바랍니다!!
오!! 주님께 부르짖어 기도합니다! 저희에게 쉼을 주시고 우리를 이 어려움에서 건져주시고 도와주십시요! 의료진들은 밤낮으로 그들이 할 수 있는 모든 최선을 다하고 있습니다. 담당의사는 하루에도 어러번 쟌 목자를 보러 오고 초음파심전도 검사를 위해 직접 와주어 감사합니다. 하나님께서 여러 동역자님들 모두의 기도를 응답해주시기를 기도합니다.
(그레이스도티 올림)
<UPDATE-12/7/2020>
M. G*raceDoty
I must confess to you; I was in shock, terror, sorrow, and anguish when I went into his room right after the surgery. He looked like something I have never seen, mainly because he didn't look alive. I was already anxious to say the least when I met with the surgeon in the consultation room. I am extremely sensitive in reading people, and as professional as he was, I sensed frustration, agitation, unhappiness, and obviously extreme exhaustion. My heart sank to the bottom of the ocean by just looking at him. When I came into John's room, my inner self fell apart and I was overcome with sorrow and grief; "What is happening? Why does he look like this? " and the report was not good. I think I cried throughout the day all day. I didn't want to leave him, but they told me I had to.
When I came home, I just dropped everything, and then let out a loud wailing. Morgan embraced me and we cried together. It was good that she was there. I came to an empty home all those weeks. It was God's provision that she should come to help me with the house. I collapsed on the couch and cried more. Morgan brought me dinner and as I was eating, I decided to call a friend and her husband whose father had a heart transplant. I confided in them my terror and sorrow. They understood me and what is at risk and they offered to pray for me and I said, "yes". In the wife's prayer, she prayed about God who gave life to the dry bones from Ezekiel, and these couple of words spoke to me. It was like a power punch to my sorrowful and agonizing soul. I finished dinner, and Morgan and I read Ezekiel 37 together and we prayed together. And then I recognize this war raging within me: the power of sorrow and anguish, and the power of the breath of God. I made a decision to call on God who gives life to dry bones and who commands me to prophesy to raise a vast army out of the dry bones, God who created the heavens and the earth, who makes skin and tendons appear, who makes our hearts beat and kidneys work, who makes our skin glow in radiance.
It's a brand new day today.
I am here with John. He looks better. He is still heavily sedated, but he responds to me. He is a bit pinker and his numbers are stable. His kidneys are still happy and his "lactate" numbers came down from 20, to start with, to 15 yesterday and today, it is 5. This number has to come down to 2. This tells you how well all his other organs are working. The nurse said John is definitely much calmer when I am here. Today, they are putting a feeding tube through his nose. This is not a setback. He just needs food as he hasn't eaten since Friday.
So I want you to be encouraged in your prayers and call on God who raises the dry bones to life. He doesn't just raise them to be merely alive. He raises them to be an army, a vast army. You are an army to pray for John, to witness God who gives life to dead things. Pray for me to take firm hold of the Holy One by the hem of his robe and see that the Lord is with us. Pray for me that I may reject the power of sorrow and anguish that is still lurking around within me, but call on God to reveal his glory.
<12/4/2020>
Dr. J*ohnDoty's update by M. G*raceDoty
His heart transplant surgery began now (Chicago 3 p.m. on 12/4) and will last 12 hours.
The surgeon's name is Dr. M*alyala.
I was told we received so many offers over the weekend because he was at the very top of the list. This, too, is God's mercy. There are so many sick people here, so many who are bedridden, sedated, and unconscious. John can move and even walk around the unit. He walked a mile yesterday and it was 8 laps, and that is a huge accomplishment in this unit. All the nurses teased our nurse saying John was walking him (it was a male nurse), not the other way around, and yet his heart is so sick that he beat everyone else here and getting a new heart first. This, too, is God's mercy.
The weather was wet so when I came out to the car to come to the hospital, I didn't have to struggle with a frozen car. This, too, was God's mercy. At the same time, I thought about the donor's family who must be shedding their tears because of the loss of their loved one. May God have mercy on us.
I hurried to his room expecting to see an empty room, but John was here; the surgery was postponed and this, too, was God's mercy. We can now spend all day together. I can wait as long as the surgery lasts and they will let me see him about an hour later once he comes back to his room, but they told me I had to go home. I can still come back at the regular time: 7:30 am and I can stay all day with him like I have been doing so far.
We are caught off guard honestly.
We said some peace yesterday during our Bible reading before all these development. I wonder if God accepted our confession and thought we were ready. I thought we weren't.
I still feel we are hanging on by a thread, but it sure is by the hem of his robe. And we are still in the category of God's mercy no matter what happens to us.
"This is what the Lord Almighty says: 'In those days ten people from all languages and nations will take firm hold of one Jew by the hem of his robe and say, ‘Let us go with you because we have heard that God is with you.’” Zechariah 8:23
<11/30/2020>
Dr. J*ohnDoty may Get Heart Transplant Soon (Heart transplant listed as status 2)
By G*raceDoty (USA)
This is what the Lord Almighty says: “In those days ten people from all languages and nations will take firm hold of one Jew by the hem of his robe and say, ‘Let us go with you, because we have heard that God is with you.’” Zech 8:23
Dear friends and saints in Christ,
After a long battle of 8 years to keep this day at bay, it is with my mixed feelings to share with you that my husband, Dr. J*ohnDoty was listed on the heart transplant list as status 2. We were admitted last week middle of November, but things happened quickly and now he is moved to status 2 and we are in ICU. This means we won't be able to leave the hospital till he gets a new heart.
I wasn't using Facebook much but it seems that it is a good platform to reach many people all at once, so I would encourage you to befriend me or search "pray for John's heart" group on Facebook. Updating and writing to many different people at different times seems to take a lot out of me as I have to get the house ready for John to come home from surgery let alone keeping a close eye on my husband's condition.
Our coordinator initially thought it will take a year but hopefully, things will happen sooner. She reminded us that meanwhile, heart disease is a "wasting disease". It wastes patients away while waiting.
We have a long and rough road ahead of us. Being terrified was our honest and true feeling initially.
I hold onto Zechariah 8:23. At this point, I'd rather not pray for this and that to get better, but we may take firm hold of the Holy One by the hem of his robe and see that God is with us.
Please remember us in your prayers and spread the word.
Sincerely,
G*raceDoty
<A picture of Dr. John's family on the oldest son's wedding day>