GOD ESTABLISHES THE KINGDOM OF DAVID, Dr. Samuel Lee
ABNER DEFECTS TO DAVID
Passage: 2Samuel 3:1~21  
Key verse: 9,10
3 The war between the house of Saul and the house of David lasted a long time.(A) David grew stronger and stronger,(B) while the house of Saul grew weaker and weaker.(C)
2 Sons were born to David in Hebron:
His firstborn was Amnon(D) the son of Ahinoam(E) of Jezreel;
3 his second, Kileab the son of Abigail(F) the widow of Nabal of Carmel;
the third, Absalom(G) the son of Maakah daughter of Talmai king of Geshur;(H)
4 the fourth, Adonijah(I) the son of Haggith;
the fifth, Shephatiah the son of Abital;
5 and the sixth, Ithream the son of David’s wife Eglah.
These were born to David in Hebron.
Abner Goes Over to David
6 During the war between the house of Saul and the house of David, Abner(J) had been strengthening his own position in the house of Saul. 7 Now Saul had had a concubine(K) named Rizpah(L) daughter of Aiah. And Ish-Bosheth said to Abner, “Why did you sleep with my father’s concubine?”
8 Abner was very angry because of what Ish-Bosheth said. So he answered, “Am I a dog’s head(M)—on Judah’s side? This very day I am loyal to the house of your father Saul and to his family and friends. I haven’t handed you over to David. Yet now you accuse me of an offense involving this woman! 9 May God deal with Abner, be it ever so severely, if I do not do for David what the Lord promised(N) him on oath 10 and transfer the kingdom from the house of Saul and establish David’s throne over Israel and Judah from Dan to Beersheba.”(O) 11 Ish-Bosheth did not dare to say another word to Abner, because he was afraid of him.
12 Then Abner sent messengers on his behalf to say to David, “Whose land is it? Make an agreement with me, and I will help you bring all Israel over to you.”
13 “Good,” said David. “I will make an agreement with you. But I demand one thing of you: Do not come into my presence unless you bring Michal daughter of Saul when you come to see me.”(P) 14 Then David sent messengers to Ish-Bosheth son of Saul, demanding, “Give me my wife Michal,(Q) whom I betrothed to myself for the price of a hundred Philistine foreskins.”
15 So Ish-Bosheth gave orders and had her taken away from her husband(R) Paltiel(S) son of Laish. 16 Her husband, however, went with her, weeping behind her all the way to Bahurim.(T) Then Abner said to him, “Go back home!” So he went back.
17 Abner conferred with the elders(U) of Israel and said, “For some time you have wanted to make David your king. 18 Now do it! For the Lord promised David, ‘By my servant David I will rescue my people Israel from the hand of the Philistines(V) and from the hand of all their enemies.(W)’”
19 Abner also spoke to the Benjamites in person. Then he went to Hebron to tell David everything that Israel and the whole tribe of Benjamin(X) wanted to do. 20 When Abner, who had twenty men with him, came to David at Hebron, David prepared a feast(Y) for him and his men. 21 Then Abner said to David, “Let me go at once and assemble all Israel for my lord the king, so that they may make a covenant(Z) with you, and that you may rule over all that your heart desires.”(AA) So David sent Abner away, and he went in peace.
Cross references
- 2 Samuel 3:1 : 1Ki 14:30
- 2 Samuel 3:1 : 2Sa 5:10
- 2 Samuel 3:1 : 2Sa 2:17; 22:44; Est 9:4
- 2 Samuel 3:2 : 2Sa 13:1
- 2 Samuel 3:2 : S 1Sa 25:43
- 2 Samuel 3:3 : S 1Sa 25:42
- 2 Samuel 3:3 : 2Sa 13:1, 28
- 2 Samuel 3:3 : 2Sa 13:37; 14:32; 15:8
- 2 Samuel 3:4 : 1Ki 1:5, 11; 2:13, 22
- 2 Samuel 3:6 : S 1Sa 14:50
- 2 Samuel 3:7 : S Ge 22:24; 2Sa 16:21-22; S 1Ki 1:3
- 2 Samuel 3:7 : 2Sa 21:8-11
- 2 Samuel 3:8 : S 1Sa 17:43; 2Sa 9:8; 16:9; 2Ki 8:13
- 2 Samuel 3:9 : S 1Sa 15:28
- 2 Samuel 3:10 : S Jdg 20:1; 1Sa 25:28-31; 2Sa 24:2
- 2 Samuel 3:13 : S Ge 43:5
- 2 Samuel 3:14 : S 1Sa 18:27
- 2 Samuel 3:15 : Dt 24:1-4
- 2 Samuel 3:15 : 1Sa 25:44
- 2 Samuel 3:16 : 2Sa 16:5; 17:18
- 2 Samuel 3:17 : S Jdg 11:11
- 2 Samuel 3:18 : S 1Sa 9:16
- 2 Samuel 3:18 : 2Sa 8:6
- 2 Samuel 3:19 : 1Ch 12:2, 16, 29
- 2 Samuel 3:20 : 1Ch 12:39
- 2 Samuel 3:21 : 2Sa 5:3
- 2 Samuel 3:21 : 1Ki 11:37
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1. Abner's decision (1-11)
David was king of Judah in Hebron for seven years before uniting the kingdom. Abner was Saul's cousin and had served as his commander-in-chief. He tried to make Saul's son king, but he realized that David was getting stronger, while Saul's son Ish-Bosheth was getting weaker. Abner's interest in Saul's concubine was possibly politically motivated. When Ish-Bosheth accused him in this matter, he became angry and used this as an excuse to transfer his allegiance to David. Abner knew from the beginning that it was God's will for David to be king of all Israel (9-10).
2. Toward a peaceful unification (12-21)
Abner used his influence to bring the elders of Israel, including the Benjamites (Saul's tribe), into David's camp. David welcomed and forgave his former enemy. He did not want civil war; he could put aside personal prejudices and past injuries for the sake of peace and unity among God's people in all Israel.
Prayer: Lord, help me not to think about myself, but do what is honoring to you and best for your people.
One Word: A shepherd can't hold grudges