JONATHAN'S WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP, Dr. Samuel Lee
DAVID AND JONATHAN
Passage: 1Samuel 20:1~42  
Key verse: 42
David and Jonathan
20 Then David fled from Naioth at Ramah and went to Jonathan and asked, “What have I done? What is my crime? How have I wronged(A) your father, that he is trying to kill me?”(B)
2 “Never!” Jonathan replied. “You are not going to die! Look, my father doesn’t do anything, great or small, without letting me know. Why would he hide this from me? It isn’t so!”
3 But David took an oath(C) and said, “Your father knows very well that I have found favor in your eyes, and he has said to himself, ‘Jonathan must not know this or he will be grieved.’ Yet as surely as the Lord lives and as you live, there is only a step between me and death.”
4 Jonathan said to David, “Whatever you want me to do, I’ll do for you.”
5 So David said, “Look, tomorrow is the New Moon feast,(D) and I am supposed to dine with the king; but let me go and hide(E) in the field until the evening of the day after tomorrow. 6 If your father misses me at all, tell him, ‘David earnestly asked my permission(F) to hurry to Bethlehem,(G) his hometown, because an annual(H) sacrifice is being made there for his whole clan.’ 7 If he says, ‘Very well,’ then your servant is safe. But if he loses his temper,(I) you can be sure that he is determined(J) to harm me. 8 As for you, show kindness to your servant, for you have brought him into a covenant(K) with you before the Lord. If I am guilty, then kill(L) me yourself! Why hand me over to your father?”
9 “Never!” Jonathan said. “If I had the least inkling that my father was determined to harm you, wouldn’t I tell you?”
10 David asked, “Who will tell me if your father answers you harshly?”
11 “Come,” Jonathan said, “let’s go out into the field.” So they went there together.
12 Then Jonathan said to David, “I swear by the Lord, the God of Israel, that I will surely sound(M) out my father by this time the day after tomorrow! If he is favorably disposed toward you, will I not send you word and let you know? 13 But if my father intends to harm you, may the Lord deal with Jonathan, be it ever so severely,(N) if I do not let you know and send you away in peace. May the Lord be with(O) you as he has been with my father. 14 But show me unfailing kindness(P) like the Lord’s kindness as long as I live, so that I may not be killed, 15 and do not ever cut off your kindness from my family(Q)—not even when the Lord has cut off every one of David’s enemies from the face of the earth.”
16 So Jonathan(R) made a covenant(S) with the house of David, saying, “May the Lord call David’s enemies to account.(T)” 17 And Jonathan had David reaffirm his oath(U) out of love for him, because he loved him as he loved himself.
18 Then Jonathan said to David, “Tomorrow is the New Moon feast. You will be missed, because your seat will be empty.(V) 19 The day after tomorrow, toward evening, go to the place where you hid(W) when this trouble began, and wait by the stone Ezel. 20 I will shoot three arrows(X) to the side of it, as though I were shooting at a target. 21 Then I will send a boy and say, ‘Go, find the arrows.’ If I say to him, ‘Look, the arrows are on this side of you; bring them here,’ then come, because, as surely as the Lord lives, you are safe; there is no danger. 22 But if I say to the boy, ‘Look, the arrows are beyond(Y) you,’ then you must go, because the Lord has sent you away. 23 And about the matter you and I discussed—remember, the Lord is witness(Z) between you and me forever.”
24 So David hid in the field, and when the New Moon feast(AA) came, the king sat down to eat. 25 He sat in his customary place by the wall, opposite Jonathan,[a] and Abner sat next to Saul, but David’s place was empty.(AB) 26 Saul said nothing that day, for he thought, “Something must have happened to David to make him ceremonially unclean—surely he is unclean.(AC)” 27 But the next day, the second day of the month, David’s place was empty again. Then Saul said to his son Jonathan, “Why hasn’t the son of Jesse come to the meal, either yesterday or today?”
28 Jonathan answered, “David earnestly asked me for permission(AD) to go to Bethlehem. 29 He said, ‘Let me go, because our family is observing a sacrifice(AE) in the town and my brother has ordered me to be there. If I have found favor in your eyes, let me get away to see my brothers.’ That is why he has not come to the king’s table.”
30 Saul’s anger flared up at Jonathan and he said to him, “You son of a perverse and rebellious woman! Don’t I know that you have sided with the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the shame of the mother who bore you? 31 As long as the son of Jesse lives on this earth, neither you nor your kingdom(AF) will be established. Now send someone to bring him to me, for he must die!”
32 “Why(AG) should he be put to death? What(AH) has he done?” Jonathan asked his father. 33 But Saul hurled his spear at him to kill him. Then Jonathan knew that his father intended(AI) to kill David.
34 Jonathan got up from the table in fierce anger; on that second day of the feast he did not eat, because he was grieved at his father’s shameful treatment of David.
35 In the morning Jonathan went out to the field for his meeting with David. He had a small boy with him, 36 and he said to the boy, “Run and find the arrows I shoot.” As the boy ran, he shot an arrow beyond him. 37 When the boy came to the place where Jonathan’s arrow had fallen, Jonathan called out after him, “Isn’t the arrow beyond(AJ) you?” 38 Then he shouted, “Hurry! Go quickly! Don’t stop!” The boy picked up the arrow and returned to his master. 39 (The boy knew nothing about all this; only Jonathan and David knew.) 40 Then Jonathan gave his weapons to the boy and said, “Go, carry them back to town.”
41 After the boy had gone, David got up from the south side of the stone and bowed down before Jonathan three times, with his face to the ground.(AK) Then they kissed each other and wept together—but David wept the most.
42 Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace,(AL) for we have sworn friendship(AM) with each other in the name of the Lord,(AN) saying, ‘The Lord is witness(AO) between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.(AP)’” Then David left, and Jonathan went back to the town.[b]
Footnotes
- 1 Samuel 20:25 Septuagint; Hebrew wall. Jonathan arose
- 1 Samuel 20:42 In Hebrew texts this sentence (20:42b) is numbered 21:1.
Cross references
- 1 Samuel 20:1 : 1Sa 24:9
- 1 Samuel 20:1 : 1Sa 22:23; 23:15; 24:11; 25:29; Ps 40:14; 54:3; 63:9; 70:2
- 1 Samuel 20:3 : Dt 6:13
- 1 Samuel 20:5 : S Nu 10:10
- 1 Samuel 20:5 : S 1Sa 19:2
- 1 Samuel 20:6 : ver 28
- 1 Samuel 20:6 : 1Sa 17:58
- 1 Samuel 20:6 : S 1Sa 1:3
- 1 Samuel 20:7 : 1Sa 10:27; 25:17
- 1 Samuel 20:7 : S 1Sa 18:11
- 1 Samuel 20:8 : S 1Sa 18:3
- 1 Samuel 20:8 : 2Sa 14:32
- 1 Samuel 20:12 : 1Sa 19:3
- 1 Samuel 20:13 : S Ru 1:17
- 1 Samuel 20:13 : S 1Sa 16:18; S 18:12
- 1 Samuel 20:14 : S Ge 40:14
- 1 Samuel 20:15 : 1Sa 24:21; 2Sa 9:7
- 1 Samuel 20:16 : S 1Sa 18:1
- 1 Samuel 20:16 : S 1Sa 18:3
- 1 Samuel 20:16 : S Jos 22:23
- 1 Samuel 20:17 : S Jos 9:18; S 1Sa 18:3
- 1 Samuel 20:18 : ver 25
- 1 Samuel 20:19 : S 1Sa 19:2
- 1 Samuel 20:20 : 2Ki 13:15
- 1 Samuel 20:22 : ver 37
- 1 Samuel 20:23 : S Ge 31:50
- 1 Samuel 20:24 : S Nu 10:10
- 1 Samuel 20:25 : ver 18
- 1 Samuel 20:26 : Lev 7:20-21
- 1 Samuel 20:28 : ver 6
- 1 Samuel 20:29 : S Ge 8:20
- 1 Samuel 20:31 : 1Sa 23:17; 24:20
- 1 Samuel 20:32 : S 1Sa 19:4; Mt 27:23
- 1 Samuel 20:32 : S Ge 31:36
- 1 Samuel 20:33 : S 1Sa 18:11, 17
- 1 Samuel 20:37 : ver 22
- 1 Samuel 20:41 : S Ge 33:3; Ru 2:10; 1Sa 24:8; 25:23; 2Sa 1:2
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S 1Sa 1:17; S Ac 15:33
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S Ge 40:14; 2Sa 1:26; Pr 18:24
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : Isa 48:1
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S Ge 31:50; S 1Sa 18:3
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : 2Sa 9:1
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1. Jonathan's love for David (1-17)
Jonathan and David were real friends. Their love was pure, for it was based on their love for God. These days, such friendship is rare--for men without God can't respect or trust one another. In godless relationships selfish people use each other. So people are lonely. Jonathan was the crown prince, but he knew that not he but David would be the next king. He loved David more than he loved the crown. They made a covenant--and they both kept it.
2. David wept the most (18-42)
Jonathan could not believe that his father plotted David's death, so he proposed a test. If Saul were planning to kill David, David's absence from the feast would thwart any such plan, and spark Saul's anger. And that is what happened. When Saul learned that David was absent, he became so angry that he almost killed Jonathan. Jonathan left the feast in anger and went out to warn David. David must leave. They parted with tears, but their bond of friendship was never broken. David wept the most.
Prayer: Lord, give us true friendships based on the love of God.
One Word: Real friends love God first