JONATHAN'S WONDERFUL FRIENDSHIP, Dr. Samuel Lee
DAVID AND JONATHAN'S FRIENDSHIP
Passage: 1Samuel 20:18~42  
Key verse: 42
18 Then Jonathan said to David, “Tomorrow is the New Moon feast. You will be missed, because your seat will be empty.(A) 19 The day after tomorrow, toward evening, go to the place where you hid(B) when this trouble began, and wait by the stone Ezel. 20 I will shoot three arrows(C) to the side of it, as though I were shooting at a target. 21 Then I will send a boy and say, ‘Go, find the arrows.’ If I say to him, ‘Look, the arrows are on this side of you; bring them here,’ then come, because, as surely as the Lord lives, you are safe; there is no danger. 22 But if I say to the boy, ‘Look, the arrows are beyond(D) you,’ then you must go, because the Lord has sent you away. 23 And about the matter you and I discussed—remember, the Lord is witness(E) between you and me forever.”
24 So David hid in the field, and when the New Moon feast(F) came, the king sat down to eat. 25 He sat in his customary place by the wall, opposite Jonathan,[a] and Abner sat next to Saul, but David’s place was empty.(G) 26 Saul said nothing that day, for he thought, “Something must have happened to David to make him ceremonially unclean—surely he is unclean.(H)” 27 But the next day, the second day of the month, David’s place was empty again. Then Saul said to his son Jonathan, “Why hasn’t the son of Jesse come to the meal, either yesterday or today?”
28 Jonathan answered, “David earnestly asked me for permission(I) to go to Bethlehem. 29 He said, ‘Let me go, because our family is observing a sacrifice(J) in the town and my brother has ordered me to be there. If I have found favor in your eyes, let me get away to see my brothers.’ That is why he has not come to the king’s table.”
30 Saul’s anger flared up at Jonathan and he said to him, “You son of a perverse and rebellious woman! Don’t I know that you have sided with the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the shame of the mother who bore you? 31 As long as the son of Jesse lives on this earth, neither you nor your kingdom(K) will be established. Now send someone to bring him to me, for he must die!”
32 “Why(L) should he be put to death? What(M) has he done?” Jonathan asked his father. 33 But Saul hurled his spear at him to kill him. Then Jonathan knew that his father intended(N) to kill David.
34 Jonathan got up from the table in fierce anger; on that second day of the feast he did not eat, because he was grieved at his father’s shameful treatment of David.
35 In the morning Jonathan went out to the field for his meeting with David. He had a small boy with him, 36 and he said to the boy, “Run and find the arrows I shoot.” As the boy ran, he shot an arrow beyond him. 37 When the boy came to the place where Jonathan’s arrow had fallen, Jonathan called out after him, “Isn’t the arrow beyond(O) you?” 38 Then he shouted, “Hurry! Go quickly! Don’t stop!” The boy picked up the arrow and returned to his master. 39 (The boy knew nothing about all this; only Jonathan and David knew.) 40 Then Jonathan gave his weapons to the boy and said, “Go, carry them back to town.”
41 After the boy had gone, David got up from the south side of the stone and bowed down before Jonathan three times, with his face to the ground.(P) Then they kissed each other and wept together—but David wept the most.
42 Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace,(Q) for we have sworn friendship(R) with each other in the name of the Lord,(S) saying, ‘The Lord is witness(T) between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.(U)’” Then David left, and Jonathan went back to the town.[b]
Footnotes
- 1 Samuel 20:25 Septuagint; Hebrew wall. Jonathan arose
- 1 Samuel 20:42 In Hebrew texts this sentence (20:42b) is numbered 21:1.
Cross references
- 1 Samuel 20:18 : ver 25
- 1 Samuel 20:19 : S 1Sa 19:2
- 1 Samuel 20:20 : 2Ki 13:15
- 1 Samuel 20:22 : ver 37
- 1 Samuel 20:23 : S Ge 31:50
- 1 Samuel 20:24 : S Nu 10:10
- 1 Samuel 20:25 : ver 18
- 1 Samuel 20:26 : Lev 7:20-21
- 1 Samuel 20:28 : ver 6
- 1 Samuel 20:29 : S Ge 8:20
- 1 Samuel 20:31 : 1Sa 23:17; 24:20
- 1 Samuel 20:32 : S 1Sa 19:4; Mt 27:23
- 1 Samuel 20:32 : S Ge 31:36
- 1 Samuel 20:33 : S 1Sa 18:11, 17
- 1 Samuel 20:37 : ver 22
- 1 Samuel 20:41 : S Ge 33:3; Ru 2:10; 1Sa 24:8; 25:23; 2Sa 1:2
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S 1Sa 1:17; S Ac 15:33
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S Ge 40:14; 2Sa 1:26; Pr 18:24
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : Isa 48:1
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : S Ge 31:50; S 1Sa 18:3
- 1 Samuel 20:42 : 2Sa 9:1
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1. Saul's intent is revealed (18-33)
To complete their plan to determine Saul's intent, David and Jonathan arranged for a signal, so they would not be seen meeting in person. Jonathan would shoot arrows and tell a boy to retrieve them from one side or the other of a stone. At the feast, when Jonathan made an excuse for David's absence, Saul lashed out, unable to contain his jealousy and murderous desire. Then Jonathan knew that his father intended to kill David.
2. Real friendship (34-42)
After Jonathan sent the signal, he and David met together for one last time. They embraced and wept together, but David wept the most. David and Jonathan's friendship is an example for all time. Jesus' goal is to make us friends like this (Jn 15:13).
Prayer: Lord, thank you for giving us the power of friendship in our lives. Help me build up your church based on true friendship.
One Word: The power of friendship