THE MEANING OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE, Dr. Samuel Lee
WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER
Passage: Matthew 19:1~15  
Key verse: 6
Divorce(A)
19 When Jesus had finished saying these things,(B) he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them(C) there.
3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife(D) for any and every reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a](E) 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]?(F) 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”(G)
8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”(H)
10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.(I) 12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”
The Little Children and Jesus(J)
13 Then people brought little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them(K) and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked them.
14 Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs(L) to such as these.”(M) 15 When he had placed his hands on them, he went on from there.
Footnotes
- Matthew 19:4 Gen. 1:27
- Matthew 19:5 Gen. 2:24
Cross references
- Matthew 19:1 : 19:1-9pp — Mk 10:1-12
- Matthew 19:1 : S Mt 7:28
- Matthew 19:2 : S Mt 4:23
- Matthew 19:3 : Mt 5:31
- Matthew 19:4 : Ge 1:27; 5:2
- Matthew 19:5 : Ge 2:24; 1Co 6:16; Eph 5:31
- Matthew 19:7 : Dt 24:1-4; Mt 5:31
- Matthew 19:9 : S Lk 16:18
- Matthew 19:11 : S Mt 13:11; 1Co 7:7-9, 17
- Matthew 19:13 : 19:13-15pp — Mk 10:13-16; Lk 18:15-17
- Matthew 19:13 : S Mk 5:23
- Matthew 19:14 : S Mt 25:34
- Matthew 19:14 : Mt 18:3; 1Pe 2:2
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1. Is it lawful to divorce? (1-9)
The Pharisees asked Jesus a hard question. They wanted to accuse him of contradicting the Bible. And they had adultery in their hearts. Jesus taught them Genesis 2 to show that marriage is not just an arrangement for human convenience; each marriage is created by God. The bond of marriage should not be broken by men. Moses made a concession to men's hardness of heart in order to restrain, not to encourage it.
2. Let the children come to me (10-15)
Jesus' disciples were shocked by Jesus' words. They had thought of marriage as a purely personal matter. If marriage is so binding, maybe it's better not to marry! Jesus told them that people are different and each person must follow God's leading in his own life. Children are most hurt by divorce. Jesus welcomed and blessed the children. We must all come to Jesus with the uncalculating hearts of children.
Prayer: Lord, help me to accept your absolute word simply, like a child.
One Word: Only God can establish a home